Leaving an abusive relationship can increase risk of harm. Preparing to leave and obtaining support, information, and resources can help you plan for safety.
Here are some tips when preparing to leave:
Determine safe people you trust and you can stay with. Plan where you will go when you leave.
Organize extra keys, money, copies of important documents, clothing and medications for you and your children. Keep this in a safe, accessible location or with someone you trust.
Organize a plan for leaving. Open savings and credit card accounts in your name only, and specifically instruct these institutions that your partner is not to have access.
If you have a protective order, keep this with you at all times and give a copy to a trusted neighbor, friend, or relative. Provide a copy to children’s schools or caregivers if the children are on the order and inform them who has permission to pick up your children.
Decide if you will inform your workplace; find out if your workplace has a policy in place that supports and assists employees who are experiencing domestic violence.
There are other ways to improve your safety and the safety of your children. Call the Family Crisis Center to speak with an advocate who is knowledgeable about resources and can provide you with assistance in navigating this time.
Many people decide that they are not ready or willing to leave an abusive relationship. The Family Crisis Center has advocates and counselors on staff, as well as skills and support groups, that can provide suggestions on safety planning for you and your children as well as help in increasing your confidence and well-being.
Connect with the Family Crisis Center to get help with conflict and violence.
To empower yourself with information on family violence and how to be safe
To have emotional support while you are building the strength and capacity to move toward living a violence-free life
To help you or a loved one navigate the challenges of life without reliance on conflict or violence